Fantasies are a normal and healthy part of our sexuality.
Often they are taken from past experiences or may even be entirely imaginary. Sometimes
these fantasies are taboo, or socially unacceptable, therefore they are only available
through fantasy. Fantasies can be either a supplement to a regular sexual lifestyle, or be
the filling for a void in ones sexual experience. In either case, all fantasies are
harmless as long as they remain just that, a fantasy.
For a better sexual relationship, you should find out what
each others fantasies are. Sit down and talk to one another about them. You should not be
afraid to share your dreams and desires with your partner. You can not afford to keep
these darker desires to yourself. Being open with your partner is the first step to
building trust which is key to any relationship. Keep an open mind, and never make
fun of or ridicule your partners fantasy. This may lead to a withdraw of trust and forth
giving of information that is required if either of you are to have a fulfilling sexual
relationship. Sometimes our fantasies are just not possible. Depending on each individual,
a fantasy may compromise the other's morality or their self imposed limits. Be sure
to think things through so that there is no repercussions or after effects of playing out
a fantasy. If necessary, compromise or be creative to make each others fantasy a
reality. For example, if Tony has had this long running fantasy of Sandra Bullock, for one
night play the part of her. Do your research on the character, get props, wigs or anything
else needed to make the "play" more realistic. Or if you really wanted to, or
have an open relationship, see if Sandra is available or willing. Just remember, it's all
play and you will get your turn as well.
Just because we are adults does not mean we have to stop
pretending or playing. Fact is, those of us who continue to "play" live happier
and longer than those who bottle up their desires and emotions. Taking a break from
reality, is the best form of stress release we can do. So why not experience our fantasies
and take this break within the safety of our sexual partners and friends?
